Some clients get paranoid when it comes to the performance of their vendors. Mostly because they saw a bad review or someone told them a “horror” story of what happened to a wedding the other day, fearing that this too would happen to their own wedding.

So how do you avoid worrying? Get someone who knows what they are doing and brief them about your fears and ask them what they can do to assure you that your fears will not come to life. From the very start, they should know what to avoid and what to do because this is what you expect from them. And on the day of your wedding, let go and let God. If there will be mistakes, then there will be mistakes. If it can be solved then fine and good. If not, let’s hope that it’s not a big boo-boo. It is done and over with. You can not do anything about it and just enjoy your day the best you can.

Worry only if you do not trust your supplier. Reading horror stories will make you paranoid and doubt everyone.

Trust is important in a client-vendor relationship which can be grounds for termination of the contract once trust between the two parties is tarnished. If you feel that things will not work out with you and your vendor, better to cut the ties and move on. Do not continue working with a vendor who you doubt. Your vendor will eventually feel this and will not have the enthusiasm to work for you. Creativity, quality and efficiency of their service will just not be the same again.

Always remember that there are some things that you can not control and you just have to trust God and your vendors.

Related to this blog post is a Facebook post of Dong Hei, a Wedding Planner at Episode of Wedding, about trusting your vendor. His post is about hiring a caterer but is applicable to any vendor you hire. Reposting this with his permission.

“Dear Clients,

Please trust your caterer with all your heart. If hindi nyo sila kayang pagkatiwalaan or you’ve heard negative feedback about them, better to turn them down instead of you sending someone para bantayan sila sa lahat ng galaw nila. Alam mo yung feeling na hindi ka magalaw ng maayos kasi may nak-titig sayo? Yung feeling na habang china-chop mo yung letson, eh halos magpalit na sila ng mukha ng baboy sa pagtutok sa waiter? Yung kulang na lang lagyan sya ng upuan sa gitna ng buffet table para bantayan bawat galaw ng food attendant. I feel sorry for them everytime na nakikita kong para silang preso na may nakatingin sa bawat galaw.

The fact na pinili nyo sila ibig sabihin pinagkakatiwalaan nyo sila. Para lang yang kumain ka sa restaurant, the moment na pumasok ka sa pinto ay, pinagkakatiwala mo pagkain at service mo. Hindi para magpapasok ka ng representative sa kitchen para magbantay at tumutok sa bawat galaw nila. Let me take this further.

Karamihan sa mga waiters and attendants ay sawa na sa pagkaing sineserve nila. Dahil halos araw-araw yan ang kaharap ng mga yan. Most of them mas gugustuhin pang kumain sa bahay instead na kainin yang mga ulam na binabantayan mo. Tungkol sa letson, kung titikman man ng chopper ang letson I don’t see ang problem with it. Iuuwi mo ang ulo, mga paa, at mga buto at hindi para maguwi pa ang mga yan sa bahay nila at pakainin ang pamilya ng nakaw.

You may have had a bad experience before, but it doesn’t mean you’ll be careful in a very offensive way. This is just my opinion and I again just feel very sorry for thesecaterers/friends na ginaganon sila. Sorry but you can’t do this to my team. Peace! :)”

Sometimes it is your guests who actually ruins your wedding. Take into the account the experience Jervy Santiago at his client’s wedding. Repost with permission. 

“Waaah! 😭     Sinabihan na kita eh, nakiusap na ako … sabi ko wag mong ilabas kamay mo sa aisle to take photos. Trabaho namin yan eh.

My assistant even went up to her, eh nagfe-facebook live daw eh” waah!! ✌️😫

Disclaimer: im posting these pics as a reminder only. So, no bashing please. This isnt about shaming anyone. no name dropping, no clear photo of her face. Simple precautions lang ito para sa mga soon- to- wed couples and their guests. peace”

Jervy is an experienced and reliable photographer. He is our “Go to Guy” for corporate and wedding documentation. You will never go wrong with Jervy and his team. But what can he do if there are guests like the lady in yellow? If you have fears, your vendors have fears as well. No amount of training and professionalism will be enough if you have guests who are pasaway.